Saturday, 23 June 2012


©Lucy Cavendish & Selina Fenech
Drawing this card from the Wild Wisdom of the Faery Oracle (Blue Angel, 2009), I did some path working.  Originally, she had bare legs, but I added in the coloured stockings, as that was something that came to me.

The card is subtitled: Glamour, Confidence, Allure, Charisma.  When I first saw it, I didn't much like it.  I went into my hypercritical mode, thinking, "But she has fat legs"  Yeah, I know, sometimes we see the strangest things!

Anyway, when I entered the card, the first thing this charming faery did was ask me for some stripy stockings, a la Jasmine Becket-Griffith.  Then she told me that all those positive traits - glamour, confidence, allure, charisma - are about state of mind, not physical reality.  If we want to be seen as glamourous and alluring, what we have to change is not ourself, but our attitude.

This message rings true to me on so many levels.  I remember when I was in college that I was able to put on my "I'm ready to party" attitude, and I'd have a great time.  It was quite tough for me, I'm naturally quite introverted, but I had somehow found the switch I needed to flick, and then I could do it.  I'd often feel very tired after, but I'd do it and enjoy it.

Other switches, though, are not as easy for me.  At the moment, I'm having a hard time with my DH, and I just don't know how to have a good conversation with him about the issues.  What this card tells me is that I need to reframe my attitude.  A timely post was this one from Arwen of Tarot by Arwen, talking about finding a bridge between a statement that isn't helpful "I'm angry with my husband, but don't know how to talk to him in a way that won't cause a huge fight" into a useful one "I speak my truth from a place of love".  This card says that what I need to do is find a way to be playful, to not take the situation too seriously, and then my attitude will soften and I will be able to approach the conversation with less fear.  Also, hopefully I can charm him so he will remember what he loves about me, and not just the negative stuff ;)


  1. Sorry to hear about your relationship problems on the last couple of posts. Men can be so analytical at times that they can't see how destructive they are being. You do seem positive in trying to solve this and you seem to be taking the right approach. Hope you sort it out.


    1. Hi Hamadryad, thanks for your supportive comment. And yes, I try to stay positive and use the cards to help me understand what is going on and how to deal with it *crosses fingers*
      Wishing you a good weekend,