Tuesday, 28 August 2012

Choices

For the Lovers card, I again decided to see where it's choicefulness is in my life right now.  So, after shuffling the card back into the deck, I looked for it and found it between Maker Three and the Emperor.

Tarot of the Sidhe ©Emily Carding

I read this two different ways.  The Maker Three could be me in my nurturing mother aspect, and the Emperor me in my disciplinarian aspect.  Or the Maker Three could be the new baby in my womb, the fruit I hope to bring to the world quite literally through labour (the card is subtitled Labour's Fruit).  That would make the Emperor my firstborn son, an association he has long held for me.  In either case, what I see here is the suggestion that it doesn't have to be an either/or choice, but rather that I can choose both!

It's not something I normally associate with the Lovers.  After all, the card either shows a couple, or a man with two women and a look of confusion.  Yet, who says that when we make choices they must exclude other choices?  I wouldn't personally choose polygamy, but when the choice is between two aspects of ourself, or two children, why should we only choose one?

A good reminder, then, that I can be nurturing and have clear boundaries, and that I can hopefully have another child without changing my relationship with my son in any negative way :)

7 comments:

  1. This is interesting...is this the Empress card? I am not quite sure--it looks like it but I don't know this deck very well as I don't have it.

    To me this feels like a classic work vs. motherhood spread. I've gotten this sort of thing a lot, but it could mean something else entirely for you.

    Lotsa Hugs,
    MM

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    1. Hi MM,

      The Maker Three is equivalent to the Three of Pentacles. Still, as you can see, it does have a creative, Empress aspect :)

      Interesting perspective, work v. motherhood. I've found out that I have some immune complications, which mean I may need to take a whole cocktail of drugs to keep the baby. So, I just emailed my placement to say I wouldn't be going back to seeing clients yet. Other work commitments I'll still have to keep, but my focus is definitely on the motherhood side of things right now!

      Lotsa Hugs,
      Kerry

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    2. Oooooh! Thanks for clarifying that. It's weird because I definitely saw it more as creation/mothering rather than work. How odd! Well, that fits with what you said for sure!

      I'm so sorry to hear of the immune complications and I hope they can be overcome with treatment. It sounds like you are making the right decision in cutting back work.

      Healthy and Happy Hugs,
      MM

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  2. Brilliant, Kerry. Your interpretation of your own cards is really resonant. The sidhe are telling you you have enough love for both your little Emperor and the fruit of your labour. The mothers of several children (including my own mother) tell me that they love all their children, and love each child differently. That is natural. And it doesn't mean you love one more or less than the other. Love is just love.

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    1. Hi Carla,

      It's funny, I've had other experiences (mainly with friends as I'm an only child) - seeing parents apparently love one child best. Perhaps that's why I worry so much about it. Thank you for your perspective - loving each differently, that feels good!

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  3. This is why I follow your blog. Your insights are spectacular!

    Loving differently sounds really good. I only have one and she is all I was able to carry.

    <3

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    1. Hi Elle,

      Glad you found something useful here :)

      Sounds like you have a painful story there, too. Maybe one day you'll share it...

      <3 <3

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