In the "Don't" position I received the Warrior Princess (equivalent to the Page of Wands). In Emily Carding's deck, she offers us the Gift of Courage. I think this is a fabulous card, and normally aspire to her energy. However, in this position she says to me that I shouldn't try to be too focused and directive with this ritual. Instead, I need to allow a more natural, emotional flow to it, as the Dancer Eight card tells me (Eight of Cups).
The Dancer Eight as what to "Do" also says that I should move forward with an open heart, knowing this is a natural part of my path. I should be guided by my search for illumination and emotional attunement, rather than focusing on "doing" the ritual, which might remain somewhat empty and stagnant if not filled with true seeking for divine union.