Thursday, 25 April 2013

Co-Dependency

©Cavendish & Becket-Griffith
Having just received my US edition of the Oracle of the Shapeshifters (Simon Pulse/Beyond Words, 2013) I couldn't wait to give it a whirl.  I drew a card for the day, and was a little surprised by what I received.

In the companion book, Lucy Cavendish says of Beauty and the Beast that we are letting someone else control us too much.  That's certainly not the case with my DH: we have a very good partnership, and give each other plenty of space.

Then I thought about my relationship with my son, and boom, co-dependency!  As I said in my last post, I find it very hard to let go, to stop being responsible for him.  And so, in that way he has a lot of power over me.  Even when someone else is taking care of him, I sometimes second-guess them or don't trust their ability to do something he needs.  And that isn't good for either him or me.  He needs room to become his own person, finding out who that is, and exploring the world without me.  And I need the same! :D

I decided to draw a line of three from the Mystical Lenormand (Königsfurt-Urania, 2004) to ask what I should know about this relationship, how I can best respond to this situation.
©Fiechter & Trösch
Man, Ring, Snake.  I read these as saying that a commitment to someone else is a slippery slope, not bad in itself, but it can lead us places we might not want to go.  And what to do about it?  Well, reading the cards another way gives me the idea that committing to transformation strengthens our Self.  I need to look at my role in my son's life, figure out which bits he or I have outgrown, and let them go, so that we can each become more ourself.

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