Thursday, 27 June 2013

Moral Dilemma

I've been struggling with a moral dilemma the last couple of days.  So today, after my meditation (54 rounds of Om Shree Dhanvantre Namaha, 54 rounds of Om Tare Tuttare Ture Svaha), I decided to do a reading on it.  The cards responded beautifully, shown here with the Mystical Lenormand (Königsfurt-Urania, 2004).


The theme of the reading, according to the corner cards, is arguments about money (Fish and Whips), and the eating away of a friendship (Mice and Dog).  Well, that was spot on for starters!  The friends I mentioned in my post about Yemaya, who are expecting their fourth child, have asked me to invest in a business venture that I don't see much hope for.  So, I'm torn.  Should I support my friends, or follow my own money savvy?


At the heart of this reading is the Clover.  So, there's something here about timing, synchronicity, and luck.  One thing is that the timing sucks.  I've just had some nasty additional bills, which are making me extra cautious about how I spend my money.  On top of that, there is a little bit of me that resents them because of the ease with which they've been popping out kids (luck?), and asking me at a time when I'm already feeling stressed and vulnerable around my own fertility hasn't made me any more kindly inclined to them.

What answer, then, do the cards suggest?  Well, they say that a decision needs to be made (Paths), that requires me to be strong (Bear) in the face of difficulties, and what may be a long, hard road (Mountain).  Underlying it all is the Heart, so I need to listen to my heart in this.

One of the issues is that I feel that I should support them because of our friendship, yet that isn't a simple equation.  Investing in a friend's business, like giving them a loan, can lead to all kinds of complications, and undermine the friendship in different ways to a straight-up "No."  Overall, my heart tells me that getting more closely involved with them at this time when I already feel somewhat resentful is a recipe for disaster.  And though it may make the friendship feel like a struggle for a while, I risk losing it either way.  So, I need to take care of my own money choices, and of my own emotions. The rest will sort itself out in the long run.

6 comments:

  1. Never lend money that you wouldn't be willing to freely give away. Would you be happy to present that money as a gift, no strings? If so, invest. If not, don't. Wise words from my ex-mother-in-law.

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    1. And come to think of it, it's sort of a crappy thing to do to ask friends to invest in a business idea. Friends and money do not mix. It's personal, not business, know what I mean? I say go with your gut. You clearly don't want to give it to them. How they respond to that belongs entirely to them.

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    2. Well, I don't know. As my friends say, who would you rather be in business with, a friend or a stranger? However, it might be different if it was the kind of thing where we were actually going to work on a project together. Just a straight up investment is something else... Overall, though, I agree with your ex-MIL :)

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    3. Well, I wouldn't want to be in business with anybody! But yes, if I were going to, it would need to be something I was actually involved with, that we were working on together.

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  2. Sounds like a stressful dilemma but I agree with what you are feeling which is that it would make things more complicated to do it, especially when you don't feel good about it.

    Good luck to you,
    MM

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    1. Thanks, MM. Now it's just a question of when and how to tell them... Kx

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