Sunday, 22 December 2013

Lenormand Reading on Reading Lenormand

Yesterday, I read a couple of things that upset me.  The first was an article on the Petit Lenormand in an Ezine I subscribe to.  That was the one that bothered me most, I think, because I work in the field.  This is a person whose work I normally avoid, not because it's bad, but because I find it so narrow-minded.  My way or the high way!

Later, I read a post about someone else's approach to Yule.  That worried me, too, because I don't subscribe to the "traditional" approach of seeing the Winter Solstice as the rebirth of the sun.  To me, it is the longest night, and I see the rebirth of the sun more at the spring equinox, when daylight hours start to exceed nighttime hours, at least in my part of the world.

Both were instances of someone claiming "tradition" is on their side, and that therefore my way of seeing the world is wrong.  Although at least the Yule post didn't put it that bluntly, while the Lenormand post did!

It's funny, because my approach to these things is far more live-and-let-live.  I follow fairly traditional ways of reading the Lenormand, for the most part, but I love reading when people take it their own way, as By the Sycamore Tree did yesterday, or as Sharyn did over on Quirkeries in November :)

I haven't been drawing Lenormand cards recently, I think in part because of just this sort of thing - being told that I/others read them the wrong way, for the wrong reasons, using the wrong decks.  I am part of a Lenormand forum, as well, where a sudden bought of bitchiness came up, accusing Caitlín Matthews' Enchanted Lenormand of not being a "real" Lenormand, and her of being a fake cartomant!  How much more will they hate me, when in fact there is more than 30 years of tradition behind how I read the cards, and well thought out reasons why I don't do predictions.  Why do people even care how others read the cards?

Anyhow, I decided to draw some cards from my favourite Lenormand, to look at what is going on for me with the Lenormand right now.  A little bit of me was wondering whether I should just give up on these cards, but what I drew, shown here from the Mystical Lenormand (Königsfurt-Urania, 2004), made me smile and sigh.  The cards don't let me down, it's just some of the other card readers that do…



I almost stopped at the first card which dropped out, the Birds, which I took as the theme for the reading.  The problem is with my anxiety over what others say, other people's gossipy talk and ideas.  Even as I was shuffling, I thought "The Cross, this is about burdens and beliefs", and up it popped: Ship, Cross, Stars.  So, I am burdened by other people's ideas about which direction I should follow on my spiritual journey with the cards.  Yet, the answer is in the same cards: I just need to have faith in my path, to follow my own guiding star, to accept and believe in this adventure I'm on and trust my own vision.

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  1. I thought I was sort of on my own honouring the dark in winter and the light in spring and summer! I'm glad to see I'm not the only one. I can't get behind today being the rebirth of the sun, when it still seems quite cold and far away!

    I've always admired your firm stance in your own beliefs,and how you balance it with live-and-let-live to all other points of view. I am on a similar path. :) Because I pick and choose from all pantheons, and I pick and choose from all traditions, along with simply making up my own, I am like cannon fodder in some online communities, and I don't feel that I belong anywhere in any 'real life' groups, either. So I have my little blog and my little altar, and all my little half-filled-in notebooks and ring binders. People might think I'm wasting my time -- but it's my time. It's all the time I get - and listening to them to tell me how to use it would be a REAL waste of it!

    Power to your elbow!!

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    1. It's been interesting this Yule, seeing just how many people do celebrate it as the longest night. Shows that at least there "tradition" isn't as uniform as some would claim! :)

      So with you on the eclectic bit. And you're right, it's a waste of time listening to others telling you how to use your time. I guess I just feel a bit more sensitive, as I'm trying to break into the market place, so I feel I need to be more out there, and also more aware of what people are saying, bah!

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  2. Caitlin Matthews a 'fake cartomant'???? You must be joking! She is one of the most knowledgeable and accomplished known to me. How utterly ridiculous.

    You know, this steams me up. They are just cards. It's just sitting and piddling with cards. Leave each other alone, for god's sake. Ugh!

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    1. I know! She's almost too traditionalist for me, though I have a great deal of respect for her. And then people slag her off for being too non-conformist?! I've been avoiding that forum ever since. I think it was mainly one person's ego, but others agreed with them...

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  3. To me, someone telling me to read or think like they do would be like them telling me I need to speak another language rather than my native tongue. But here's the thing - I can't make myself believe something I don't believe! Like you, I've always seen the solstice as the darkest, longest night, but if someone wants to see it otherwise, go for it. Just don't tell me I have to see it that way. I don't know if you noticed on my blog, but I prefaced my Lenormand draw by saying, "I read these as an oracle." Yes, I think we need to honor traditions, but the traditions we need to honor are OUR OWN. It doesn't mean I think someone else is wrong because they do it another way, because they're just following their own way. But it does hurt when you say something and then someone makes a snarky comment. Yet I think it is because I make those people feel insecure by presenting an alternate view. If it weren't so, why would they react in such a mean way? Gentle hugs to you AND a pat on the back for not being afraid to see/do things in a way that is right for you.

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    1. That's so well put! Both the bit about believing what we believe, and the bit about challenging other people's beliefs just by being who we are.

      And yes, I noticed your preface that you'd read the Lenormand cards like an oracle - I fully respect that. As Eowyn says, they're just bits of card. And if you get something from them, however you use them, then I think that's a good thing :)

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  4. I also prefer to celebrate the darkness in winter. At this time of year I really don't want to be running around thinking about light or goals that need to be met. I want to take advantage of the dark and the silence by reflecting on what's passing. This is what feels natural to me so this is the way I go.

    We all walk our own path and have our own opinions about things but it's a real shame when someone presents their way as the way or the only way. It really gets my back up and sometimes I can feel myself getting angry at the arrogance of it all. These days I try to ignore it and look for those I know have a more open-minded attitude to things. It's hard when something like this spills over within a social group that I usually enjoy being part of though.

    Like others here I really enjoy your take on Lenormand. I'm trying to learn the traditional meanings but I'm also an intuitive reader and I don't want to lose sight of that.

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    1. That's a lovely way of putting it, Sharon. It's good to learn traditional meanings, but not to lose sight of the fact that reading any cards is still an intuitive process! Melissa Hanney did a hilarious video on "Things Lenormand Readers Say", and "You don't read the cards intuitively" was mocked several times. Even traditional readers will come up with very different readings of the same cards, depending on the querent and the question etc, so though they might not be noticing whether a particular part of the image jumps out at them, they are still bringing their intuition into play! :)

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  6. Just wanted to add that I'm currently studying for the Bardic grade with OBOD and according to this course the energy of the winter solstice lasts for twelve days. OBOD suggests using this time to rest in the darkness so we can contemplate our losses, so we can think about what needs releasing, and what's ending at this time of year. I'm not writing this to prove a point... I'm just demonstrating that various spiritual traditions have different perspectives on the solstices too. I chose Druidry because it happens to be something I can relate to :)

    Another thing I don't get is this! I love hearing and reading about the different ways that different people do things, especially if they're passionate about what they do. I find it uplifting and exciting. Some people just seem to want to take all the fun out of it by trying to confine others with rules, regulations, and so-called correctness. Viva la revolution I say! ;)

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    1. It's handy that the twelve days of Yule finish on 2nd of January. If I've got my count right. That does make a lot of sense. It certainly feels like the days between Winter Solstice and the day after New Year are their own separate little twilight zone in time. :)

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    2. I really like the sound of that, too, the Winter Solstice's energy being honoured for twelve days/nights. Though it's interesting that it's a very different perspective on the whole Christmas/New Year's partying tradition. I guess some people want to fight back against the dark, while others are happy to sink into and explore it. Might vary at different times in your life, too...

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  7. I think I´ve said this before. You cannot go astray from your path because life is your path. and you are just where you ´re supposed to be. Even the doubting and later on the reassurance you are on the right track: it is all your path. Nobody else should question another person path.and you are so right to defend and stand up for yours.

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    1. I agree with that, and there's also the fact that I can choose (to an extent), the path I take. I could turn my back on Lenormand cards and just not go there. As it is, I generally choose not to engage when people start up these arguments. I guess, in some ways, doubting is a good part of my path - it keeps me questioning and thinking ;)

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