Sunday, 16 February 2014

Tapping

Last week, my mum sent me through a link to the 2014 Tapping World Summit.  Tapping, or EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), is something I've been aware of for at least seven years - I had a session with an EFT practitioner back then, but I didn't like him very much, and didn't continue with it. However, my mother is a very sensible woman (a Virgoan, and down to earth).  And thinking about the potential for releasing fears, I was reminded that I still feel a lot of fear around the birth of my second son, hopefully in about 4 weeks time.  So, I decided to take another look at it.

I had a look through one book, and at a couple of websites, and decided to start tapping on my fear that something will happen to my second son during his birth.  However, as I tapped, the sentence that kept coming up was actually "I am afraid to see my son suffer" and I started to cry.

I realised that this is not just about my unborn baby, but also about my first son.  Sometimes, I have felt I don't spend enough time with him, I'm always glad when he can go to school, or when he is sleeping peacefully.  I think this may be part of that fear of seeing him suffer.  My son has pain every day of his life, and that can be really hard to watch as a mother.  Knowing I can't prevent it, just try to help make it less bad, or more tolerable, is a hard place to be.  And of course, the two are also related: it's because I have to watch my first son suffer on a daily basis that I am so afraid something bad could happen to my second son.

This acted as a powerful reminder for me of why these "self-help" techniques may often not be used by people.  It's not that they don't work, but that they take work: a willingness to explore our pain, our baggage, our fears.  This is something that I will continue with - after all, the birth is fast approaching, and I don't want my fear to potentially create the very thing I am afraid of!

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  1. I stand by tapping and EFT! It got me through my driving lessons and test. It's a great technique. I should do it more often really, to address all sorts of anxiety.

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    1. That's good to hear. I've been trying it for an energy boost, too - "Even though I feel tired, I love and accept myself completely!" :D

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  2. My dear Kerry
    I can see how deep this fear has rooted in you. You have a lot to deal with and especially now when you are so close to giving birth. I can only say I will be thinking of you and sending you lots of positive energy.
    Gentle hugs

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    1. Thank you so much, Ellen, that really means a lot!
      Hugs, Kxx

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  3. (((K))) You are a great mom, and there is nothing wrong with feeling relieved when your son is asleep or at school. It is incredibly hard to be with anyone who is in pain, but ESPECIALLY when it is a child and there is nothing much to do for it. The EFT caught on here in the States with many therapists and counselors advising their clients to start it. It makes sense, as we do hold our emotions and pains in our bodies. That was quite a revelation you had doing it. I hope it continues to help heal your pain.

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    1. Have to admit, I haven't quite dared go there again, at least for that fear. But I have talked about it, which also helped, and I have been meditating again this week. And it's good to have that insight into myself, I hadn't realised the ways that fear was affecting me, both with my son and with the baby coming...

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  4. Funny how easily we attach baggage, and how difficult it is to let it go ~

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    1. One of the joys of being human, I think. And hence the whole "non-attachment" thing, maybe I'll get there one day… :)

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  5. I've looked at tapping too and tried it a little here and there. I think you may be on to something as to why people don't use some of these techniques. I might have to dabble some more and see what happens.

    And how wonderful it is that you were able to uncover a hidden fear. Getting to the real thoughts behind the fear is so important for releasing it.

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    1. Yes, Siddaleah, I think it was very helpful to uncover that part of the fear! I hope you'll let us know how you get on if you try tapping again, too :)

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