Saturday, 19 April 2014

Day By Day

Wildwood Tarot
This morning, for no obvious reason I can fathom, I woke with a song in my head: Day By Day.  It's a song I learned from a Swedish friend back when I was 14.  The same friend taught my how to play chords on the piano, so I could accompany myself when I wanted to sing.  At the time, I didn't like this particular song.  I didn't like the religious connotations, I found the use of "thee" old-fashioned, and I hated calling to the "Lord".  Even now, that last is the part that rankles most with me.

I think it took me so long to find my spirituality because I found it almost impossible to worship a male deity.  A few years ago, I tried to incorporate male aspects into my spiritual practice more, but the only one who has really stuck is Ganesha.  Praying to "the Lord" still doesn't sit easy with me.

And yet, I have always loved the music of this song.  The lyrics, too, make sense to me much more now than they did when I first learnt them nearly thirty years ago.  They echo what James Ricklef writes about: the idea of trying to always see the spiritual side in everything that life offers us, and of trying to live according to principles of love and devotion.

Now I'm wondering if I could put a one syllable Goddess name in to replace Lord, Bast, maybe.  Or perhaps just bite the bullet and sing it as is.  After all, there are plenty of men I love in my life - my DH, my two sons, and my stepfather topping the list.  Maybe I can start from the known to approach the unknown...

7 comments:

  1. Interesting. My problem with the song is not 'Lord' or 'thee' but the ideas of following, with an implication of obedience to laws.

    Day by day
    Day by day
    Oh Dear Lord
    Three things I pray
    To see thee more clearly
    Love thee more dearly
    Follow thee more nearly
    Day by day

    It doesn't sit well with me. So I'm okay with the masculine language but not so much the sentiment. :) Instead of O dear Lord you could sing Goddess Dear.

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    1. I like the idea of putting in "Goddess Dear". As for the "follow thee more nearly", I've never thought of that in terms of obeying laws, more like coming closer to divine ideals of behaviour - kind, loving, wise, playful, compassionate...

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  2. Oh, how I can relate to this! The two dads I had during childhood were awful fathers, so praying to a "Father" rankled me. The "lord" thing bothered me too (it was another name for "master" to me). But then a friend said, "Don't look at it as the type of master with a whip, but like a master gardener, a master craftsman, etc. who helps you grow. But honestly, my personal name for deity when I address it is Amma (mother); it is the only one I feel comfortable with, even though it doesn't name a specific deity.

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    1. That's it exactly, tst! My dad was an alcoholic, and my stepdad is someone I not only have avoided since he and my mum split, but his son avoids him, too, though he still sees my mum regularly. Tells you a bit about what a pearl he was! And my mum used to jokingly call him "Oh Lord and Master" sometimes!
      I've thought about Mary as mother, but that also rankles with me because of the Christian connotations of having to be virgin, and not really being a deity because she's female. I like the idea of calling on Amma :)

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  3. I can understand how difficult it is to incorporate the masculine into your practice. For me the Christian God of my upbringing is like a gentle father. I do not see him as equivalent of Jaweh, who is in my opinion the male tribe god of the Jewish tribe in the old days. Yet for me Christianity is a very exclusive religion with too much dogma. I usually only worship the feminine but when I am in need I tend to turn to the god of my youth. Male deity in paganism is often very dominant and/or sexual so for now its just me and the Goddess but who knows where my path will lead me
    I think it is wise to start with your own men.And perhaps you could use the male archetypes in tarot like Kings, Emperor, Hermit and the Hanged man. While writing this I think this could be helpful for myself too :D

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    1. I have put some Emperor cards on my altar occasionally. However, most Hierophants annoy me, and many Emperors strike me as too rigid. I really like your idea of using the Kings, though. I never thought of that, as they are Courts (less archetypal somehow), and yet that might work well!

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    2. I think it can be done with any card and then use it as a way of naming the masculine in divinity.

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