Friday, 31 October 2014

Samhain Reading

Release: Transgression, Embrace: Thirst
Today is Samhain, or Halloween.  People often say this is the time when the veils between this world and the next are at their thinnest.  I'm not sure I believe in different 'worlds' as such.  Still, this time of year with its colder days and longer nights does seem appropriate for reflection on the past, and on our ancestors.  This time is also considered by many to be the pagan New Year.

While I'm not sure I see it quite that way, it feels like a good time to think about what I should release in my life, and what to embrace.  And I also decided to ask for a message from the ancestors.  For all three, I drew cards from Les Vampires (Blue Angel, 2014), an appropriately dark deck ;)

At first glance, these cards to release, Transgression, and embrace, Thirst, seem confusingly similar: transgression and obsession.  Looking deeper, though, I see the message to let go of mistakes I may have made, perceived flaws, and the feeling that I have done things wrong.  There is no help in worrying over what is done, as I cannot go back to do it differently.

Instead, I should embrace my addictions and obsessions.  That might seem like the road to further mistakes and regrets, but I think this means embracing with loving acceptance, rather than just giving into them.

 This time of year can be full of challenges, with the overt materialism of Christmas shopping and the encouragement of overindulgence in food and drink which starts long before Christmas itself.  Relapse is seen as a natural part of giving up bad habits.  It is hard to be 'perfect' and far better to have a plan in place that allows for the occasional slip.  So, while I have steered clear of chocolate, biscuits and cake for seven weeks now, I would do well to embrace the idea that the temptation of all those Christmas-themed goodies may lure me in.  If I accept and plan for that, I'm less likely to think 'I've blown it now, so I may as well give up!', which is what happened to me at Christmas a few years ago after I'd given up on sweet things for eleven months!

And perhaps Christmas shopping is not so bad a way to express my materialism: at least it is focused on others, on thinking about what might bring them some joy :)

I love the message from the ancestors: Hope.  Though this may be a time of darkness and challenges, it is also a time to focus on the future, to light a candle to illuminate the dark.  A time to believe that we don't have to repeat the same mistakes over and over if we can accept and forgive them, and plan a different way to respond to them...


  1. Embracing your obsessions will always be of more help than fighting or ignoring them. Now you have a good solid plan for the holidays. I don't believe in ancestral help but hope is a great way to approach the future, It is what keeps us going, make us stronger when life gets difficult or demanding (holidays??)
    This was a tempting post: I like the deck a lot...

    1. Yes, embracing obsessions is definitely more productive than fighting or ignoring them, and I'm glad to have a plan. I'm interested that you say you don't believe in ancestral help, Ellen. Is it that you don't feel your ancestors can or would want to do anything? Even if you don't believe in ancestors in some place watching over us, I just think about the strengths that have been passed down to me genetically - my grandma was a very strong, capable woman, for instance. As you say, either way, hope is a good thing :)

  2. I like your idea of welcoming obsessions instead of turning them away. They are almost like a young child who begs for something you know isn't good for them. But you don't want to shame the child, but instead steer them in the direction of some treat (not necessarily food) that might be better suited for them. Good luck as you go through the holidays - may you find plenty of alternatives instead!

    1. That's a beautiful way of describing it, Bev. Yes, I think our obsessions are often connected to our inner child, that sense of wanting and impatience :) I still haven't quite managed that "treat that isn't food" thing, at least in the evenings. At least currently I'm having 3 or 4 medjool dates as my evening treat, instead of anything made with processed sugar and/or flour!

  3. I loved your interpretation! And I understand the feeling of being out of control around the holidays. At least it's just a temporary thing. That's a good way to look at it! I still think I should get a deck by this duo. I am not sure if it'll be this one, although this one is interesting. Lotsa hugs...MM

    1. Yes, holiday times are tough for lots of people, I think. Firstly, with all the extra junk in the shops, and secondly with the tradition of eating it and gifting it. As you say, at least it's only temporary! And so far, I'm doing quite well at avoiding looking at things in ads or even in the shops - I've just been turning my eyes away :D
      Lotsa hugs back atcha!